Three key questions to ask yourself



  1. the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.

2. a person’s sense of resolve or determination.

As a child I have been challenged with this question: “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Is this question familiar to you? And usually, a child that has been conditioned to answer this question to what is acceptable as per social standards, would then respond: “A Doctor, lawyer…”

I therefore could not agree anymore with what Simon T Bailey suggests we should rather ask ourselves opposed to “What do I want to be when I grow up?”

Ask yourself:

  1. What would I do if no one paid me to do it?
  2. What would I do if I knew I could fail?
  3. And what makes me come alive?

Once we can answer these three questions truthfully, then the mask we have been carrying, and not to forget the load we have been carrying to “become” someone that society accepts now begins to lift as we venture into the person we were created to be and for the reason we have been created for.

Attempting to put on your masks when purpose has sent out an invitation to you asking for it to be revealed should not be up for consideration. Purpose has now given you permission to live. I quote: “Don’t ask what the world needs, ask what makes me come alive; because what the world needs is people that come alive”- Simon T Bailey.

Your child hood days might be over, therefore you have not recently been challenged with the question: “What do you want to be when you grow up?” But you are well into your age and career, and you are challenged with “Am I living my Purpose?”

I have the humbling privilege to mentor a few people, and almost all my mentees come to me saying: “I just want to know my purpose and live my purpose.” Having had their ladder up the wrong wall with no results of success, happiness and fulfilment has got them to a place of reflection and deep conviction that “surely I have been born for more than just this.”

The answers to these three questions provide an opportunity of career exploration.  You could either:

  1. redirect your career radically;
  2. or adapt your current role to suit you much better;
  3.  or perhaps there are opportunities within your organisation that are worth considering.

What are you waiting for? Have the conversation with your Human Resources Consultant today.

I guarantee you once you have received the invitation to Purpose, you begin to live and not just exist. You can never be the same again, because you are energised as you use your talents and energy in a more focused approached, which is far more rewarding than living your life to that which is being prescribed to you by someone who will never be able to be you.  

So, what are you waiting for? Ask yourself those three questions: 1. What would I do if no one paid me to do it?2. What would I do if I knew I could fail?3. And what makes me come alive? Look at the opportunities that are out there and start serving your purpose.

“Pay checks are given to people who show up, but opportunities are given to people who work beyond what they are paid to do, because of that emotional commitment” – Simon T Bailey.

Yours in Purpose and Significance,

Melissa  Porfirio